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WEDDINGS
I love to do weddings, in any setting. Another minister I know has
performed one in a hot air balloon! It looked like a lot of fun! I once
attended a ceremony on the dunes of Cape Cod and another in a loft in
New York. Any place that has meaning, fits the number of guests, or
serves the needs of the bride and groom is fine with me.
As far as the ceremony itself is concerned, I suggest that the bride and
groom do some research on the internet. There are many sites which post
vows previously spoken by couples on their wedding day. Copy the ones
you like and send them to me once we have scheduled your wedding date.
Mark the parts that you find appealing and I will blend and tweak the
ceremony so that it fits your needs. I will then email the finished version
back to you for your approval. Please make sure I have as much time as
possible to do this, two weeks minimum.
I am a bit of a feminist when it comes to the vows; if one party wants to use
the word “obey”, I think the other party should as well. Better yet, leave it
out of the ceremony. I love to end it with the phrase “you may seal your
vows with a kiss” rather than giving one person the right to kiss the other.
And you both are adults, making your own choice in the matter of marriage,
so no one is “giving away” another person, but rather “bringing forward”, if
phrasing is necessary at all.
Some officiates are of the opinion that “forever” and “for all time” should not
be included in the vows, as we have only the span of time before us with
which to make a commitment. I am flexible on this point, and only wish to
draw your attention to the words, which certainly do have meaning. As a
believer in multiple lifetimes, it has more meaning for me than it might for
others who are firm in their belief of the here and now.
If you have children you wish to include in the ceremony in some way, that
is quite wonderful. A couple I recently married had their daughter light the
tapers for them before they in turn lit the unity candle. It was a very moving
moment.
I also wanted to mention that I attended a wedding ceremony once where
the minister felt it was his duty to deliver a sermon. It was impromptu and
against the wishes of the couple. They, and all the guests, were subjected
to a ten-minute lecture on the value of peace in the Middle East. I am a
great believer in peace, particularly on a wedding day, but this was
extremely unprofessional conduct. I bring it up because I want you to know
that I would never subject the bridal couple to that kind of behavior. In fact,
this is one of the reasons that I like to do weddings, I know I can do a much
better job for the couple than that!
Also, I wear normal clothing to these events, usually gray or some other
dark color. Never black. I believe it is the officiator’s job to blend into the
background. The bride and groom are the only stars of the day.
At the end of the service I will provide you with a lovely certificate, suitable
for framing, and a copy of the ceremony as it has been written. Such lovely
sentiments are expressed, words that have so many layers of meaning, on
your wedding day, that I think it is wonderful to have a copy of the vows to
look back upon in the years ahead.
I have a flat fee for a wedding ceremony of $250 plus mileage, computed at
$1.50 per mile, back and forth from my home to the site of the wedding. I
live in Central Western New Jersey and have included a map on the site so
that you may calculate the distance from me to your wedding site. If you
wish me to attend a rehearsal, the cost is $75 plus mileage.
Please check my Specials page, if you are able to come to me for a simple
ceremony.
Feel free to email me with your inquiry. I can be contacted at
info@rev4hire.com. Please use the word "baptism," "wedding," or
"rev4hire" in the subject line. I get so much SPAM that my finger can be a
bit too fast on the delete button, so be sure to include that subject line. I
will respond within a couple of days. Thanks so much.
I love to do weddings, in any setting. Another minister I know has
performed one in a hot air balloon! It looked like a lot of fun! I once
attended a ceremony on the dunes of Cape Cod and another in a loft in
New York. Any place that has meaning, fits the number of guests, or
serves the needs of the bride and groom is fine with me.
As far as the ceremony itself is concerned, I suggest that the bride and
groom do some research on the internet. There are many sites which post
vows previously spoken by couples on their wedding day. Copy the ones
you like and send them to me once we have scheduled your wedding date.
Mark the parts that you find appealing and I will blend and tweak the
ceremony so that it fits your needs. I will then email the finished version
back to you for your approval. Please make sure I have as much time as
possible to do this, two weeks minimum.
I am a bit of a feminist when it comes to the vows; if one party wants to use
the word “obey”, I think the other party should as well. Better yet, leave it
out of the ceremony. I love to end it with the phrase “you may seal your
vows with a kiss” rather than giving one person the right to kiss the other.
And you both are adults, making your own choice in the matter of marriage,
so no one is “giving away” another person, but rather “bringing forward”, if
phrasing is necessary at all.
Some officiates are of the opinion that “forever” and “for all time” should not
be included in the vows, as we have only the span of time before us with
which to make a commitment. I am flexible on this point, and only wish to
draw your attention to the words, which certainly do have meaning. As a
believer in multiple lifetimes, it has more meaning for me than it might for
others who are firm in their belief of the here and now.
If you have children you wish to include in the ceremony in some way, that
is quite wonderful. A couple I recently married had their daughter light the
tapers for them before they in turn lit the unity candle. It was a very moving
moment.
I also wanted to mention that I attended a wedding ceremony once where
the minister felt it was his duty to deliver a sermon. It was impromptu and
against the wishes of the couple. They, and all the guests, were subjected
to a ten-minute lecture on the value of peace in the Middle East. I am a
great believer in peace, particularly on a wedding day, but this was
extremely unprofessional conduct. I bring it up because I want you to know
that I would never subject the bridal couple to that kind of behavior. In fact,
this is one of the reasons that I like to do weddings, I know I can do a much
better job for the couple than that!
Also, I wear normal clothing to these events, usually gray or some other
dark color. Never black. I believe it is the officiator’s job to blend into the
background. The bride and groom are the only stars of the day.
At the end of the service I will provide you with a lovely certificate, suitable
for framing, and a copy of the ceremony as it has been written. Such lovely
sentiments are expressed, words that have so many layers of meaning, on
your wedding day, that I think it is wonderful to have a copy of the vows to
look back upon in the years ahead.
I have a flat fee for a wedding ceremony of $250 plus mileage, computed at
$1.50 per mile, back and forth from my home to the site of the wedding. I
live in Central Western New Jersey and have included a map on the site so
that you may calculate the distance from me to your wedding site. If you
wish me to attend a rehearsal, the cost is $75 plus mileage.
Please check my Specials page, if you are able to come to me for a simple
ceremony.
Feel free to email me with your inquiry. I can be contacted at
info@rev4hire.com. Please use the word "baptism," "wedding," or
"rev4hire" in the subject line. I get so much SPAM that my finger can be a
bit too fast on the delete button, so be sure to include that subject line. I
will respond within a couple of days. Thanks so much.